Comments on: Some comments on the word “trainer” http://nvc-evolves.org/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/ Explorations in evolving the understanding, living, and teaching of Nonviolent Communication Sun, 17 Mar 2019 07:58:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Newt Bailey http://nvc-evolves.org/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/comment-page-1/#comment-5599 Newt Bailey Sat, 15 Aug 2009 20:14:35 +0000 http://evolve.awakeningcompassion.com/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/#comment-5599 Enjoying the reminder. As someone whose "employment" consists purely of devoting time to NVC-related activities (teaching/training, mediating, facilitating) I'm often aware of discomfort answering "What do you do?" with "I'm an NVC trainer and mediator." Happy to remind myself to describe what I do not what I am, even though I expect it to take a few more words. I also expect it will lead to more connection and understanding than the labels. Peace, Newt Enjoying the reminder. As someone whose “employment” consists purely of devoting time to NVC-related activities (teaching/training, mediating, facilitating) I’m often aware of discomfort answering “What do you do?” with “I’m an NVC trainer and mediator.” Happy to remind myself to describe what I do not what I am, even though I expect it to take a few more words. I also expect it will lead to more connection and understanding than the labels. Peace, Newt

]]> By: Angela Harms http://nvc-evolves.org/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/comment-page-1/#comment-1680 Angela Harms Mon, 15 Sep 2008 13:56:58 +0000 http://evolve.awakeningcompassion.com/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/#comment-1680 I'm coming in late, so I'm not sure the request and offer are still alive in you, but in case they are, here's a response. Yes! Resonates, yes. I am so excited about the work you're doing in helping NVC to be fully and completely NVC... without compromise, and the way you lovingly seek out places where we might have habits that conflict with the world we hope for. I feel such a sense of joy about it. So yes, it resonates, and thank you for putting this out there! And if you find yourself in a place where you want to help me grow in these things, I would love to learn from you. :) Angela I’m coming in late, so I’m not sure the request and offer are still alive in you, but in case they are, here’s a response.

Yes! Resonates, yes. I am so excited about the work you’re doing in helping NVC to be fully and completely NVC… without compromise, and the way you lovingly seek out places where we might have habits that conflict with the world we hope for. I feel such a sense of joy about it. So yes, it resonates, and thank you for putting this out there!

And if you find yourself in a place where you want to help me grow in these things, I would love to learn from you. :)

Angela

]]> By: conal http://nvc-evolves.org/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/comment-page-1/#comment-7 conal Tue, 27 Feb 2007 06:53:56 +0000 http://evolve.awakeningcompassion.com/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/#comment-7 <ol> <li>Some examples: <ul> <li>Statement: "The meeting is for trainers only." Reply: "Fine. When would you like me to arrive?"</li> <li>"Here is the list of local NVC trainers: ..."</li> <li>Statement: "Only trainers are allowed to post their classes on the web site". Reply: "Thanks for the welcome. I'll get right on it."</li> </ul> One might accuse the responder of "playing with words". I like Marshall's encouragement "never to do anything that isn't play".</li> <li>Surprise, confusion, false expectations, frustration over unexpected effort to make themselves clear. Starting to realize that the old speech habits aren't working as well as they used to.</li> </ol> Some examples:

Statement: “The meeting is for trainers only.” Reply: “Fine. When would you like me to arrive?”
“Here is the list of local NVC trainers: …”
Statement: “Only trainers are allowed to post their classes on the web site”. Reply: “Thanks for the welcome. I’ll get right on it.”

One might accuse the responder of “playing with words”. I like Marshall’s encouragement “never to do anything that isn’t play”.
Surprise, confusion, false expectations, frustration over unexpected effort to make themselves clear. Starting to realize that the old speech habits aren’t working as well as they used to.

]]> By: Sandy Fox http://nvc-evolves.org/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Sandy Fox Tue, 27 Feb 2007 05:28:07 +0000 http://evolve.awakeningcompassion.com/posts/some-comments-on-the-word-trainer/#comment-6 Aloha Conal, I would love to here more about this statement: "Now I wonder if a more effective strategy to get the language shift I'm wanting is to simply use the word the way I want to use it (the direct & conventional English meaning of one who trains, i.e., do rather than be) and allow cognitive dissonance in others to help from there." 1) What would the language sound like specifically? 2) And when you say "allow cognitive dissonance in others" what do you see unfolding there? Aloha Conal,

I would love to here more about this statement:
“Now I wonder if a more effective strategy to get the language shift I’m wanting is to simply use the word the way I want to use it (the direct & conventional English meaning of one who trains, i.e., do rather than be) and allow cognitive dissonance in others to help from there.”

1) What would the language sound like specifically?
2) And when you say “allow cognitive dissonance in others” what do you see unfolding there?

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